Daniel Mendelsohn, writing in The New York Times, looks at Anderson Cooper's recent coming out and digs deeply into Cooper's reasons for not doing it sooner, particularly his desire for privacy. An excerpt:
"But all this talk about privacy reveals deep and troubling assumptions. Mr. Cooper compared disclosure of one’s homosexuality to revealing “who a reporter votes for” or “what religion they are,” but in a post-Freudian age in which sexuality is seen as a core aspect of identity, this comes across as disingenuous. If you’re really “happy, comfortable ... and proud” to be gay, as Mr. Cooper says he is, the simple fact of being gay should be no more a “privacy” issue than being straight is for straight people. It’s just who you are. (“Privacy,” on the other hand, would cover, say, whom you’re dating or hooking up with — nobody else’s business.) You can’t claim to be comfortable with being gay while trying to keep it a secret: When you conceal your sexuality, you’re buying, however unconsciously or reluctantly, into the notion that there is, at some level, something wrong with it."
Read it all here.
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I did a really nice post about him but after reading another blogger's post about him and reading his letter again, I wrote the following comment. It goes for other favorites too like NPH and Matt Bomer. Nice to know I'm not the only one:
SEAN said...
AS thrilled as I am that Anderson has confirmed his sexuality and in doing so he will save countless lives, families and spirits.
I will ask, "Why is one's sexual orientation a privacy issue for everyone not straight?" Straight people never think twice about people knowing who they date, have sex with, marry, have children with, live with etc.
Please don't say it's a privacy issue, please say "I feared for my career", "I feared rejection from friends and family, " I feared for my safety, and life." When you make sexual orientation a privacy issue, you make it sound dirty. And yes, I think that there are different standards for public figures and that everyone has the right to come out on they on terms and timetable. Just be real with the reason.
Where'd that come from???
8:18 PM
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